The Greatest Fear Is To Be Alone

“You cannot be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with.” ~ Wayne Dyer 

It is a sad state of affair that humankind has issues with being alone, it easily can be our greatest fear. We long to be with others, some say we are social animals or have we learned to cage ourselves within this belief.

Many of us are filled with terror and are deeply afraid of our own company. Being alone with yourself for many is grim and intimidating that we occupy ourselves with our work, business, hobbies, laptops, mobiles, social media, partner, friends, family and much more. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this but our so called elders forgot to teach us the importance of being alone. 

Being alone in our silence is where some say we can truly find that peace we seek, as that is when we truly empathetically listen to the unsaid words and feelings that is us. For even we know all of this but knowing is not being. And the wiseman is the one who lives a life of being rather than just knowing.

We all can take that step to awaken ourself and learn to be alone. It is not about being lonely but about knowing oneself, who you truly are and heal your darkness so that you can let the light shine. For all the trash in your mind needs to be taken out. Only then you experience that no moment is ordinary but truly totally unique and divine.

Like many of you out there, I too am overcoming this fear of being alone. Let go of the control for nothing is under our control. 

“There is a time for being ahead, a time for being behind; a time for being in motion, a time for being at rest; a time for being vigorous, a time for being exhausted; a time for being safe, a time for being in danger. The Master sees things as they are, without trying to control them. She lets them go their own way, and resides at the centre of the circle.” ~ Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching

My name is Rohit Bassi and I am the founder of In Learning. I inspire and energise you through the power of attention, consciousness and energy. I have had the honour to serve the likes of Oracle, Harley-Davidson, Mazda, Emirates NBD, The Address Hotels + Resorts, Alshaya, Baskin Robbins, and many more. Please feel free to contact me via rohit@in-learning.com or call on +971-(0)55-553-2275.

Stupid Mistakes

Throughout your life you will make many mistakes, some of them you will simply define as stupid mistakes. I have done this and till date do it.

Stupid mistakes because at that moment in time your intelligence escapes you. Due to lack of meaning or sense of life you carry out acts, which are out of character.  Your life seems inane and pointless that your sensibility runs away to a place unknown to yourself.

These stupid mistakes could turn out to be your greatest learning but at the same time they could be something that may or my not bite you back sometime in the future; of that only time will be the true witness.

In the presence of this dark side of yours, you are ashamed to face yourself. Hideous feelings of loneliness, emptiness, anger and fear make you take actions that get engraved in your memory of utter regret.

The disappointment of your actions haunt you and it feels as if the four walls are closing in on you. You gasp for air with the trust somehow or someone will rescue you from your misery of the stupid mistake.

No matter how painful or difficult it may be, the only solution is you yourself. Looking outwards into the world will never resolve the matter; you will have to learn to work from the inside out.

You are the solution, find it from within.


My name is Rohit Bassi and I am the founder of In Learning. My mission is about sowing the seeds of passion to help you outperform yourself by enhancing your core critical skills of communication, leadership and collaboration. I have delivered workshops to the likes of Oracle, Harley-Davidson, Emirates NBD, Emaar, Alshaya, Baskin Robbins, Mazda and many more. Please feel free to contact me via rohit@in-learning.com or call on +971-(0)55-553-2275.

Four Walls Of My Life

The four walls of my life are painted with colourful stories yet these walls still have many empty white spaces.

On the wall in front of me I see the vivid reality of my existence and on the wall to the back of me I hear the quiet desperation of my untold stories. Then on the right wall I see moments of great glory with a burning desire to conquer all and on the left wall there is the darkness of my venomous nature.

As I look down there is no ground under my feet and when I look above I see the open sky. Where am I? What kind of illusion is this? Is someone playing a trick on me?

The sands of time are forever slipping through my fingers. Could it be that everything is working perfectly according to some kind of an incredible divine plan?





My name is Rohit Bassi and I am the founder of In Learning. My mission is about sowing the seeds of passion to help you outperform yourself by enhancing your core critical skills of communication, leadership and collaboration. I have delivered workshops to the likes of Oracle, Harley-Davidson, Emirates NBD, Emaar, Alshaya, Baskin Robbins, Mazda and many more. Please feel free to contact me via rohit@in-learning.com or call on +971-(0)55-553-2275.

Here We Are Now!!!

Within a flash, within a blink of an eye my life passes by. 

Year on year there is a sweet voice within me that nudges me to move on, take the plunge, and make a difference. Then the fear of regret, resentment and rejection overwhelms every part of me and I stop.

This feeling of uncertainty when will it cease to exist. The struggle of life becomes a hindrance in my every step. The sleepless nights haunt my every dream and aspiration.

As I carry on walking into this journey called life, in the distance, there is a glimmer of nirvana or is this a delusion of my mind that seeks perfection in all that is.






My name is Rohit Bassi and I am the founder of In Learning. My mission is about sowing the seeds of passion to help you outperform yourself by enhancing your core critical skills of communication, leadership and collaboration. I have delivered workshops to the likes of Oracle, Harley-Davidson, Emirates NBD, Emaar, Alshaya, Baskin Robbins, Mazda and many more. Please feel free to contact me via rohit@in-learning.com or call on +971-(0)55-553-2275.

Your Mother Was Right - Time Is Money

This is a guest post by Mohammed Owais 

Time is money. Really?

Everyone says “time is money”.  But few people ever treat their time with as much care as their money.

Here is another way in which time is a lot more like money. Every time you take the decision to procrastinate, you are effectively incurring “time debt”.

Like financial debt, it accumulates. Every time you choose not to do a task that is due, you have created a liability for yourself. The longer you keep it unfinished, the harder it becomes to do.

Unpaid loans have interest. Procrastinated tasks have consequences. And like interest, these consequences become worse the longer you keep delaying the tasks.

Why is this important?

Like financial debt, if not handled with care, you can enter a vicious cycle of debt. You probably know people who have so much financial debt that they are only able to make the minimum payments on their loans. You may also know some people who are constantly fire-fighting with their work. Barely able to keep up with hundreds of little tasks, they are running on a treadmill with the illusion of being productive.

Ironically, they no longer find the time to spend on the handful of strategic tasks that can get them out of the situation. Like the often-repeated story of the workers in an ancient city who kept rebuffing the man who wanted to introduce them to the wheel, because they were too busy trying to move things by painfully dragging them across the land.

Decisions, decisions, decisions

Life is often a game of decisions: short-term pain vs long-term gain. Should I buy this pair of jeans for $200 or save this money for a rainy day? Time management is about making the same decisions with your available time. Every hour of every single day.

You don’t always have to make the “good” decision every time. In fact, smart people will often weigh the odds and sometimes decide that not doing something right now is a better use of their time, because something else is more important. The key difference is that they make a conscious decision and are aware of the potential consequences of delaying this task.  

Your analogy is stupid!

These concepts may not be for everyone. Certain tasks, such as creative work, usually require an inherent degree of flexibility when it comes to time. Again, if you are someone who does this kind of work regularly, you will be acutely aware of the trade-offs when you make this choice. Even graphics designers need to pay their bills on time and if you get carried away with your latest masterpiece and forget to pay the credit card bill, you pay the price in the form of penalties.

Getting off the hamster wheel

If you find yourself stuck in a cycle of time-debt, getting off it requires some dedication. Here’s the most important thing you can do: prioritise.  Use the importance/urgency quadrant to help you make your decisions. A full description of these techniques is beyond the scope of this article, but there are plenty of resources available if you are committed to managing your time better.

This blog post was written by Mohammed Owais. He is the CTO of Cazar and the leader at the official UAE SQL Server User Group.