“Trust is to human relationships what faith is to gospel living. It is
the beginning place, the foundation upon which more can be built. Where trust
is, love can flourish.” - Barbara Smith
It is emotionally painful when someone you look up to utters the words to you “I don’t trust anyone” when you have placed your trust and faith in them. As you listen to these words it makes you wonder with all the passion, compassion and care you had placed into that individual the person was just pretending to be your well-wisher.
You see trust is extremely powerful. A simple definition of
trust is belief “that someone or
something is reliable, good, honest, effective, etc.” Another definition that I read says “firm belief in the integrity, ability, or
character of a person or thing; confidence or reliance.”
Let me simplify it further trust means faith, hope, confidence thus it is a powerful act, emotion and
word. What is the point if there is no
trust in a relationship? This could be relationship in terms of such as work,
friendship, family, government and love. The relationship is gone if there is
no trust.
Even though trust is important and extremely powerful, at
the same time it can be considered to be dangerous. Trust allows you to form relationships with others
be it at work, with service providers, business deals, your career, family and
friends. The danger part of trust is that you have to take the risk to believe
the other person or party will pull through for you.
Yes, in life you will come across incidents where someone
will break your trust. Depending on how attached you get to the pain of the
trust being broken you may decide not to trust anyone anymore. That emotion of
mistrust unconsciously you will pour into different parts of your life such as
your career, business, intimate relationships, friendship and family ties. That
mistrust will in the long run will cause you to sabotage your own life but you will blame others.
“People that have trust issues only need to look in the mirror. There they will meet the one person that will betray them the most.” - Shannon.L.Alder
“People that have trust issues only need to look in the mirror. There they will meet the one person that will betray them the most.” - Shannon.L.Alder
Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy states “Trusting requires
that we can, 1) be vulnerable to others (vulnerable to betrayal in particular);
2) think well of others, at least in certain domains; and 3) be optimistic that
they are, or at least will be, competent in certain respects.”
You can easily take the heartache of someone breaking your
trust and unknowingly or knowingly damage your own behaviour. In turn, this
leads to your own failure and then you wonder why you are not successful in your
life. Trust is the foundation of success.
“A man who trusts nobody is apt to be the kind of man nobody trusts.” -
Harold MacMillan
My name is Rohit Bassi and I am the founder of In Learning. My mission is about sowing the seeds of passion to help you outperform yourself by enhancing your core critical skills of communication, leadership and collaboration. I have delivered workshops to the likes of Oracle, Harley-Davidson, Emirates NBD, Emaar, Alshaya, Baskin Robbins, Mazda and many more. Please feel free to contact me via rohit@in-learning.com or call on +971-(0)55-553-2275.
My name is Rohit Bassi and I am the founder of In Learning. My mission is about sowing the seeds of passion to help you outperform yourself by enhancing your core critical skills of communication, leadership and collaboration. I have delivered workshops to the likes of Oracle, Harley-Davidson, Emirates NBD, Emaar, Alshaya, Baskin Robbins, Mazda and many more. Please feel free to contact me via rohit@in-learning.com or call on +971-(0)55-553-2275.